“Comparison is the simple term but it means a lot. Parents need to understand that comparing their child to someone else child is not motivation. No two children are same. They have different talents, interests, developed at different rates and have different strengths. Practically speaking, parents can either build or break the self esteem and confidence of their children. Expressing unhappiness due to poor performance will make kids feel worthless. Parents compare their children grade with others and then determine whether their kids academic achievement is normal, better or excellent. If your child is jealous the reason might be you compared them with others consistently.
As a parent, you are responsible for correcting and guiding your kids, But how you express your corrective guidance makes all the difference in how child receive it .
When you have to confront your child, avoid blaming, criticising or fault finding, which determine self – esteem and can lead to resentment. Instead strive to nurture and encourage even when disciplining your kids. Make sure they know that you expect better next time and your love is unconditional for them.
Every child is unique and special. Childhood is not a race to see how quickly a child can read ,write and count . Childhood is a small window of time to learn and develop at the pace which is right for each individual child. Every child is gifted, they just unwrap their packages at different time.
So never ever compare your child with others. There is no comparison between sun and moon, they shine when it’s their time.
Mrs. Kumud More
